I was a child of the 80’s.

At home and church I was taught that sex outside of marriage was not acceptable, but my real sex education came from the television set. Some of our favorite family programs were Three’s Company, Remington Steele, James Bond movies, and Love At First Bite.

I can still remember George Hamilton (Count Dracula) telling Susan St. James (Cindy), “With you, never a quickie. Always a longie.”

And Laura Holt was my role model. She waited to have sex with Remington Steele not because it was wrong, but because it would complicate their relationship. But the tension was always there, carrying the viewers on to the next episode. When would they consummate their relationship?

I am sincerely embarrassed that James Bond was normal programming for our family. The sex in those movies was outright exploitative (though the television versions were likely somewhat edited). I was relieved to read recently that the Craig Bond is not as much a sexual casanova as the earlier Bonds – though not necessarily for good reasons. [1]

Repeatedly during my growing up years I observed that sex outside of marriage was glorified and celebrated as a wonderful, exciting, and very normal act.

I didn’t see women getting pregnant out of wedlock and having to suffer the consequences of destroyed lives, guilt, and shame.  They didn’t show children being born deformed due to sexually transmitted diseases. Nor did they show men wasting away from AIDS or women going insane from syphillis.

Certainly, we were taught briefly about these diseases as children growing up, but how could any so called “sex” education stand up against the glorification of sex that was taught through living stories flaunted day after day on the television set?

And sure enough – the best teacher won. I was 17 years old when I “chose” to break with tradition and follow after the ways of the world – which were clearly more attractive and inviting.

I was a party girl: give me a couple of drinks and I would give myself away to anyone I found interesting and attractive. Is it any wonder that I became a single mother at the age of 24? Actually it is a wonder, because it should have happened at 17 and 18 and 19, etc. Or I should have died a dozen times due to reckless behavior.

At first, I was excited about the pregnancy. But when my boyfriend left me three months in, I was shocked and dismayed. I never wanted to be a single parent. The horror!

Imagine that! I never considered that my actions had consequences. Unbelievable!

What grace God demonstrated to me. Rather than having me succumb to the horrors of a sexually transmitted disease – He gave me a beautiful daughter. And it changed my life. But it didn’t change the memories of the scores of men I had been “intimate” with.

Anyone of those persons could have been a carrier of a number of infections just waiting to suck the life out of me. This truth hit me hard recently as I learned that the initial outbreak of syphilis, according to Dr. S.I. McMullen, can go unnoticed by women, causing debilitating symptoms up to 30 years later – including insanity (paresis) and tics, deafness, or blindness (locomotor ataxia). [1]

No one ever told me that. But it probably wouldn’t have mattered if they had. I already had all the education I needed: sex outside of marriage was the norm.

Imagine what life might have been for me if I had chosen the straight and narrow path. I was in the top ten percentile in my high school graduating class and I was bound for college. But my party life interfered with all my dreams and plans, veering me off in all kinds of crazy places and conundrums for the thrill of the hunt. I dropped out of college; sold Kirby vacuums; dated more than one sociopathic maniac; ran off across America with a boyfriend; committed petty theft; experimented with every kind of drug but heroine; drove drunk on roads people are afraid to drive sober; and eventually got pregnant.

Imagine if I had been taught at an early age that sex outside of marriage was destructive and dangerous. Imagine if I had not been educated by the television. Imagine if all the movies or t.v. I’d ever watched showed the true consequences of sexual deviancy and the party life.

Today the sexual “agenda” pushed on our children through media is much stronger and more perverted than it ever was in the 80’s.

What will life look like 10 years from now for the children who are being raised up by present day television, media, and the world?

What if we taught our children the truth about sex instead?

• That 1.2 million Americans are HIV positive and many don’t know it [3]
• That homosexual and bisexual men are more affected than others [3]
• 50% of sexually active people will have an STD at some point in their life [4]
• About 1 in 5 persons has genital herpes (a lifelong infection) [4]
• 90% of those who have genital herpes don’t know it [4]
• Sex causes pregnancies (wanted and unwanted)
• 85% of abortions occur from women who choose sex outside of marriage [5]
• Abortion kills a human baby
• Condoms are not 100% successful in preventing pregnancy, nor STD [6]
• Heterosexual sex with one partner for life will virtually prevent STD
• Sex within marriage is God ordained and should be beautiful, sacred, and fulfilling
• God ordained sex within marriage protects people, societies, and individuals from the devastations of sexual sin (STD’s, unwanted pregnancies, abortions, and the likes)

As a society we have abandoned what is good.  Even the CDC recognizes that abstinence prevents STD and pregnancy. Our very health is at stake, yet society bombards us with free sex even though the statics show that it harms, kills, and destroys.

Protect your children from the lies about sex and share with them the truth.

How I wish I had been protected.

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http://www.cdc.gov/std/syphilis/stats.htm

[1] Why Is Daniel Craig’s James Bond So Sexless?

[2] McMillen, S.I., M.D. None Of These Diseases

[3] http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/statistics/overview/ataglance.html

[4] http://www.ashasexualhealth.org/stdsstis/statistics/

[5] http://www.abort73.com/abortion_facts/us_abortion_statistics/

[6] http://www.cdc.gov/condomeffectiveness/brief.html

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